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Falling In Love After A Break Up

Break ups are very hard. Either party of the mix feels some emotion they isn’t always fun. When people think about falling in love again after a break up, sometimes it seems impossible. However, one thing people don’t realize is that

“Sometimes falling in love after a break up doesn’t mean with someone else, it sometimes means with falling in love with your life.”

I think there are two ways to fall in love after a break up, either with your new life or with someone else. Maybe both sound impossible right now if you have just ended it with someone or maybe your praying that you won’t have to deal with either one because eventually your hoping you and your partner will get back together. I’ve been there. I have been there a couple times. It seems crazy to move on after a break up. Through the crying, anger, sadness and craziness of making it through the day without them seems impossible.

After my first break up I never thought I would move on. After months of tears, overthinking and figuring out what I wanted, I moved on. It took me picking up my own pieces and putting them back together. It took eight long months before I was ready to fall in love with my life again. My break up taught me to be determined in my goals and to go after the things I wanted in life that I put on hold because of someone else. It was never his choice to hold me back but I allowed myself to be held back instead.

“Live every moment, love beyond words and laugh every day.”

So how did you do it?

You find the strength inside of you that you didn’t know you had. You give the time you need to cope then you make a list of all the things you want out of life and you make them happen. You use this part of your life as a stepping stone for the next best thing.

You make time for friends you didn’t before

You take the photography class you have been thinking about

You hike the grand canyon

You laugh and drink to much wine with friends

You go back to school for that masters degree you have been thinking about

For me, I used my break ups as time to focus on myself and what I really wanted. Eventually the right guy will come your way, but in the meantime take care of what you can.

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Written by Lisa Thompson

Lisa Thompson is Founder and Executive Director of the non-profit Self Love Beauty and host of 'The Confident Podcast'. She is an established confidence and self-love workshop leader and keynote speaker. She received a Bachelors in Arts in Communications and Public Relations from Michigan State University, degree in Social Impact Strategy from the University of Pennsylvania, certified in Positive Psychology and Creating Wellbeing, certified in Fundraising and Philanthropy from the Lilly Family School of Philanthropy at Indiana University and trained in mindfulness from the Search Inside Yourself Leadership Institute. Currently, she sits on the MiHIA Adverse Childhood Experience (ACEs) steering team to build resilience in adults and children in Michigan, Great Lakes Bay Mental Health Partnership and a Rotary member. Her mission is to use her gifts, strengths and talents in speaking and writing to connect with people and empower them to love themselves, get unstuck and take personal action for self-improvements. She resides in Michigan, loves to run, sip on Americanos and has a dog named Denver.

3 Comments “Falling In Love After A Break Up”

fashtonishing says:

December 30, 2013 at 4:27 pm

Wow, this is so true. I loved reading this, my ex and I broke up 6 months ago after a 4 year relationship. And I still cry.. Sometimes it’s so hard, but indeed you have to get through and do things.
Maybe we can follow each other?

Kisses, x
1. Lisa Thompson says:
  
  December 30, 2013 at 4:38 pm
  
  I’m glad you enjoyed reading this! I am always up for talking or giving advice. I think we all go through these things but in different versions. I am sorry to hear about your break up but like I said it’s sometimes about finding ourselves through the break ups that help the most!
  1. fashtonishing says:
    
    December 30, 2013 at 4:41 pm
    
    Indeed, but now with the holidays it’s extra difficult for me, because all my sisters (younger) have a boyfriend and they’re doing the same things here at home that I did with my bf a while ago… So it’s a bit hard to watch..

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